Words For Life.

Can you remember a specific event in your life where, unexpectedly, someone said something positive to you that will forever be etched into your mind?  I want to share such an event that happened to me on a recent business trip.

As I pulled up to a streetlight, I glanced at the clock and realized I was going to be about 20 minutes early to my meeting.  As I turned to my left, I could see the building where my meeting was to take place.  It was such a perfect weather day and the building stood out against the rich, blue sky. I decided to text my wife a picture of where I was meeting.

Below is her response:

Nine words of encouragement that were simple, succinct and spoken from the heart of my champion. Words forever etched into my mind.

And so, I wonder. If I could meet your employees, team members, family or friends, would any of them tell me they feel like you’re their champion?  Or, are you like some of the people I meet as a consultant who tell me they cannot wait for you to go away and not come back because you seem to live for speaking of things that tear people down?

Experience has shown me that reaching your goals is best achieved by consistently seeking opportunities to offer encouraging words and  honest feedback to your team. Encouragement lasts a lifetime, but fear lasts only as long as we give it permission.  Words of encouragement, spoken in truth, ultimately make you a champion and convey the powerful message: “you got this”.  As I work with businesses in distress, I find that much of what I do is centered on promoting the “you got this” mentality.  If you think about it, to be an effective turnaround professional you have to move hearts and minds from “it’s over” to “you got this”.  Anything short of achieving that and, well, it probably is over.

So, I encourage you! The next person you talk to, be a champion and speak words of encouragement into their work and life. The very words you speak may last a lifetime.

The Gift

 

Please allow me to introduce to you Lydia.  Yesterday, I sat in a hotel lobby working before I left for my meeting.  I was sitting in a quiet corner of the lobby on a couch with my laptop in front of me.  There were high back chairs across the coffee table and another to the right.  As I sat there in my own little world, comfortably typing away on my keyboard and enjoying my Earl Grey hot tea, I saw someone in the corner of my eye walk up behind the chair to my right and I could smell the heavy odor of burnt cigarettes in an ash tray.  As I turned my head to identify the smell, Lydia took a seat on the edge of the chair, legs together, hands holding her Pall Mall Cigarettes and she said in a motherly voice any son would recognize, “sir……..do you know how much water and a sandwich would cost in this place?”.

Exactly eight days earlier, I was at another Hotel in the Rocky Mountains of Colorado standing in front of an audience giving a speech about this exact moment in time.  The objective of that speech was to persuade every person to help others in distress because of three benefits.  While there are many, I chose to discuss three.  They were:

1.  Assist in the protection and/or repair of relationships as a result of distress
2. The engagement of assistance helps relieve anxiety.  People see and feel that they are not alone through the engagement of relationship.
3. The blessings that are given and received when you come alongside and walk with someone during their time of distress.  In most cases, your ability to listen is sufficient to let someone know they can make it through to the other side.

Today, I was given a gift from Lydia.  It came in the form of the three benefits above.  Before she left to eat breakfast in the Hotel, we talked and I listened to her for about 15 minutes.  We discussed her medications, the homeless shelter she sleeps in at night, where to go and get the best food off the dollar menu.  By the way, Lydia loves donuts.  She told me about her son and daughter, the challenges that the fights against everyday and she was especially proud of the necklace she is wearing which has a pendant heart with an arrow through it.  She enthusiastically told me that she bought it out of the candy machine and it only cost 25 cents!  As our conversation concluded, Lydia gave me permission to pray for her health, safety, family and any other provision that is needed as we sat in the lobby of the hotel.  We shook hands, shared a smile and Lydia disappeared around the corner into the breakfast area. I went back to work.

As I stared at my computer screen, I reflected on the conversation and hoped that Lydia experienced some type of relational repair from the distress she is living in.  As we spoke to each other her initial anxiety evaporated and she began to smile and share her story.  Equally important, we both left with the gift of blessing each other’s life.  Unfortunately, Lydia was dealing with extreme distress.  We are all one bad decision, accident or surprise away from extreme distress although we move through our weeks of life as if it will never happen to us.  I hope you will join me in helping people you find in distress and experience the gifts of assisting others.  There is always more than one day in our life when we will desire to be the recipient of assistance in our distress.  Is there someone you can help today?

Best Conference I have ever attended!

J

Just returned from Scorre Conference (www.scorreconference.tv) in Vail, CO.  Strongly encourage you to check it out and attend.  Conference is led by Ken Davis (www.KenDavis.com) and Michael Hyatt (www.MichaelHyatt.com).  That’s Michael above.

Here are some important teachable moments from the conference.

1.  Your communication should be about a single dominant idea or objective.  If you don’t do this, the audience will assign one.

2.  You should be able to sum up your dominant idea or objective in a single sentence.

3.  Always speak from the truth to positively change peoples lives.  It’s not about you.

4. Professionals play at a different level than amateurs.  Stop acting like an amateur and you will become a Professional.

5.  Always visualize your outcome.  You cannot get there until you see it.

6.  Invest in yourself to get the best return on investment.

  View from the the Hotel.

Whatever personal mountain you are climbing, don’t stop!  With each step your elevation is changing.  Struggle well with the rest of us reaching for the summit.

 

All the  best, Scott

 

I bought the lie, but thankfully there is a return policy

How many times in your life have you thought, “If I could just get  (fill in the blank) I would have all the happiness and fulfillment I need in life”? And how many times has your fill in the blank answer been something like money, a new car, a job promotion or some other material possession? If we’re honest with ourselves, we’ve all been there and done that. There was a time in my life where I bought into the lie that I could find true happiness and fulfillment in travel, possessions, a high-flying social life and pursuit of things that, like castles in the sand, were in a constant state of decay. I refer to this as The Black Hole Syndrome.

 Think about it.

The endless pursuit of things in a constant state of decay simply means you will always be left wanting more as those things eventually sink into the Black Hole. If you can’t find happiness and fulfillment exactly where you are, then gaining anything, at any place and at any time, will never satisfy you. I truly believe everyone can experience joy and happiness in their lives, which will ultimately lead to a sense of fulfillment and contentment. I won’t argue that in today’s world of conflicting messages, finding that peace is not always an easy task. But, I’ve got a couple of suggestions that might help make it a little easier. They certainly have helped me.

My first suggestion is to stop making decisions based primarily on what you think others will think. Too many folks tie their identity, confidence and satisfaction to how they believe they will be perceived and virtually no action is taken without first considering the benefits or losses of what others may think. These folks, without fail, will eventually fall victim to the Black Hole Syndrome.

 Then, instead of being so concerned about what people think of you, I suggest aligning yourself with those people who define themselves by the quality of their relationships with others. You know these people just as well as you know those with Black Hole Syndrome. When I have run across these folks either personally or professionally, I’ve noticed some common traits. They are almost always unassuming and direct, yet tactful. They are content and steady, but not rushed. They are articulate, reasonably focused, patient and peaceful in demeanor. They are unlikely to gossip and genuinely desire to know about you on a personal level. They rarely engage in discussions on the material aspects of life. These are the kind of people I prefer to be around, especially in business.

If you find yourself suffering from the Black Hole Syndrome, take comfort in the fact that there is a “return policy” where you can turn away from the lie and focus instead, on the relationships in your life. It’s only through quality relationships that true happiness and fulfillment can be achieved.

The best people and companies I encounter are those who develop authentic relationships. And isn’t every genuine success built first on a relationship?

I encourage you to start building quality relationships today with your family, friends, neighbors and business associates. The success, happiness and fulfillment you seek at work and at home are right in front of you every day. Start right now!

The Anatomy of Business Failure “Part 2” Coming Tomorrow Morning!

“Before you decide to follow someone, you may want to determine what they believe in and where they are going before they lead you into harm’s way.”  Scott Lackey

Monday morning “The Anatomy of Business Failure “Part 2”

Travel With A Pilgrim

Recently I was invited to participate in a training program at my Church regarding how to help and properly respond to someone who asks or reveals that they need help.  A section within the training discussed “The response of a pilgrim versus the response of an expert.”  The premise being a Pilgrim by definition will journey with you to help whereas an expert is quick to tell you what you need to do and move on.  While there are appropriate places for an expert opinion, I find that in life and business, quick expert advice is often shallow and impractical.  Not because the provider lacked intelligence, rather the problems of life and business require far more insight into their depth and breadth to truly bring about sustainable and desired change.  Let’s look at this a little further.       

 During a recent client meeting and just after the “Hello!” and “How have you been?”, I listened to a long list of “you will not believe what happened”, “we had these series of recurring problems”, “the employee challenges seem to never stop” and this list of topics continued.  Without interruption, I listened in curiosity as to how this would end.  After about 10 minutes, I think my client began to realize that I had not said anything.  The stories abruptly came to a stop in the middle of my client’s description of another perceived issue with the statement “sorry to ramble about all of this, where should we start today?”

 Enter the trusted advisor….the Pilgrim who will come alongside you and walk or run if necessary to help you find or stay on safe passage.  The Pilgrim is easy to spot because they frequently use “we” versus “you” as they climb into the foxhole with you.  This is a question we ask ourselves in the military, who can I trust to be in the foxhole with me if all hell breaks loose?  Contrast this with the expert, they are easy to hear. They are quick to provide all types of solutions and opinions as to how and why this is happening to you as they look down on you in your foxhole.  You are also likely to hear all about what is going to happen if you do not fix the problem immediately as they perceive the enemy advancing on your position.  Once an expert has taught you everything THEY think you need to know………. exit stage right. 

 Think of your business and challenges you are facing.  Who do you seek outside wise counsel from?  Are you surrounded my Pilgrims or Experts?  The answer to this question can radically improve your business and life’s relationships. 

 At Meridian, our mission is “To serve as the trusted advisor, business turnaround executive, business coach and trainer.”  We focus on businesses in distress while coming alongside their stakeholders by providing a comprehensive business assessment, recommendations, implementation support and on-going advisory services that will equip stakeholders, leadership and employees to measurably, effectively and intentionally accomplish the business objectives.  Call today for a free consultation (731) 300-1304.  There is wisdom when traveling with a Pilgrim.